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Lqdy Hqawke at least that may make social integration easier, but it must play hob on her self confidence. It is a positive, but not a real winning situation for the poor child.
Again I am glad that Little Hawke has taken an interest and that they have things in common. ;)
My printer, TV, stereo, Blu-ray player, laptop, and mini fridge are all black.
I hate dust.
Tomorrow is a big day…..GCSE results. Son seems calm. I am trying to be, lol.
The car goes a week on Monday.
Yesterday we both went for our dental check-up, we both had a filling that had dropped out, so we will be back next month to have our fillings done. On our way home we stopped to buy a replacement door mat for our front door at our favourite hardware shop but I didn’t have enough energy left to have a mooch around. It was very frustrating.
I am sitting here aghast at the video I am seeing out of Syria of hundreds of dead children and women that have been gassed with chemical weapons… There are no words, no adequate expression of the rage & disgust I feel. >:+|
I am really tired. We did grocery shopping followed by a doctor appointment for both of my parents which involve waiting in the waiting room for an hour past our appointment and then waiting in the treatment room for another 30 minutes. We had to go directly to pick my daughter up from school. Then, we headed to dinner. I left home before 10 AM and did not get home until after 6 PM, still facing evening chores. Wednesday is always a long day.
Tomorrow I have to take my father to have his ears cleaned out and to have his hearing tested. I have told my parents not to say a word about me being a professional in that field. I don’t want those people looking at me and wondering why my poor “deaf as a post” father has never had a hearing aid. I don’t want them wondering how I ever let him get in this condition. I’ve already started talking to my father about the fact they are going to talk to him about hearing aids tomorrow. The response I had from the backseat was, “I’m NOT going to have hearing aids.” Okay, well, I wash my hands of it, just like I have washed my hands of it for over 25 years. I don’t want to be judged by people who had not had to live with my father their entire lives.
ASTI, I have everything crossed for your son and his test scores.
I received quite a scare yesterday. My ankle have been getting swollen so I made an appointment with my cardiologist. When I arrived yesterday he looked at my last blood work and hold me they have been calling me to come back. My blood count was dangerously low. Normal 14-16 and I was at 7.4. The cardiologist told me he wanted me to take another blood test to make sure it had not dropped more. If it was at a 6 I was to go straight to the Emergency Room to be admitted for a blood transfusion.
Of course I get all worried and I head straight for the Laboratory to get my blood drawn again. They did a rush job and thank goodness it had not changed. It was still at 7.4. The doctor still wants tests done to see why my blood count is so low. Friday I will spend it in the outpatient clinic getting a GI test done. :(
The symptoms for low blood counts are several and I had them all. I was blaming my heart for my weakness, my swollen ankles, being tired all the time. :(
I will let you know how I do on Friday.
I am very tensely waiting for my son to phone. He had to be at school at 10 to collect his results…………….
And he’s done it!
Two A’s, three B’s and four C’s. He’s got the grades he needs to go on to 6th form to study History, Geography, Physics and Maths.
So proud and so happy, and so relieved! My clever boy!
Asti I never doubted that he would have the grades he needed. Neither you nor your spouse are lacing in intellect and he gets that from both of you. Well, minus whatever that Y chromosome does to adolescent boys. ;)
Lady Hawke My father was into serious denial about his hearing loss, too. No one who has ever lived with a person who was in that state would judge you. Most of us know how stubborn they can be and know you cannot convince them, especially if they are family members. Good luck with them convincing him of the need. ;)
MM take care of yourself please.
Asti Congratulations to your son. It must be stressful and difficult beginning the letting go process and seeing what he makes of himself in this world. I am not looking forward it.
MM, I’m so sorry you have yet another health concern to worry you. I’m glad your labwork had not deteriorated further.
ASTI, Congratulations to your son and to all of you. I’m so pleased he is to go on with his studies. I know you were full of nerves but I know there was no serious concern he would not be continuing his studies except in your worse nightmares.
DEANIE, for a long time my father would only consider hearing aids if I would fit them. I had been testing him for years and for years he had tried to tell me how to do my work, that I wasn’t testing him to suit him. So, I knew trying to fit him with hearing aids was going to be war. He would never be satisfied and it would always be my fault. He would pay for them but not wear them and it would be my doing. If he was going to give someone hell and be resentful of them for not producing what he wanted the way he wanted it, it was not going to be me. I’m not sure he would have even let me try. Starting in high school it became my fault he couldn’t understand conversations. I wasn’t spreaking clearly enough. In grad school I was not making th test instructions plain enough so he couldn’t respond to the test properly. My daddy and I have a really good relationship until it comes to his hearing loss. Then we are at war.
Asti Wonderful news! Please give him our congratulations:)
Lady Hawke That must have been so galling, to have your expertise called into question in that way.
Who of you in the U.S. can name the character in the last two panels? Brought back memories of my childhood.
Thank you everyone for the congrats to my son. I am so happy, and still in a dither, lol. I haven’t been able to settle to anything all day long, I am on such a high!
I am getting terrible at remembering to read post here. I think I have been reading and doing other things. I think I have already been here and posted.
I have been reading a lot lately. The other day I spent the whole day shopping. Hmm I thought I told you. Maybe this is my problem. I am thinking about posting and then fail to do it. I went to Seymour to pick up a scanner at Staples. While I was there, I thought I would go to the shopping center and do a little window shopping. I did find a pair of dress sandles that are a wedge. I wore them around the store about 1/2 hour to see if they felt good. They seemed to support my foot really well. They also have a rubber sole so I won’t slip. So now I can wear them with dress clothes as well as causal. The problem I have with my other dress shoes is my feet swell because I usually wear them while traveling in a car. My feet don’t get elevated so they will swell and the shoes becom uncomfortable.
I was thinking about going to another store but realized it was in Columbus. Because I was thinking this, I got in the wrong lane going home. I had to turn on the road that goes to Columbus. So I stopped and called Jennifer to see if she wanted to meet me for lunch. She did but after lunch it looked like it was going to storm. So I went to Kohls to shop while it was storming. By the time I got home it was 6:00 PM.
Lady Hawke Isn’t there someway you can get a temporary tag so your DS can drive the van?
Asti Too bad you worried about your son’s scores. The rest of us knew he would have no problem.
As I suspected my father’s hearing is even worse than it was when I lasted tested it myself over 15 years ago. We are going back to see the audiologist on Wednesday. We are going to have to walk a fine line between my father rejecting a hearing aid outright and him keeping it, paying for it, but not wearing it just to be able to say, “I did what you wanted but I hate them and I don’t want to wear them”. My is more worried about him spending the money on it then not wearing it. That was always my fear, my certainty, when I was fitting hearing aids. I know he needs hearing aids but I also know he won’t wear them unless they fulfill his every expectation and there is no way they are going to return his hearing to anything close to normal. He has waited far too long and his hearing and ability to understand speech have deteriorated.
I just researched the price of the hearing aids I thought my father might be able to use. It is a new hearing aid that is inserted in the ear at the fitting and is not removed for three to four months. Unfortunately, the hearing aids cost about $3000 a year. It is like a subscription. Since they are being worn continuously they wear out and instead of repairing them they are just replaced, as many times as you need during a year. BUT when the next year starts it is another $3000.
I had hoped one of those might work for my father. He has manual dexterity issues since having the shingles in his hand. So, I thought the semi-permanent placement was a good idea, but not at $3000 a year. I don’t really think he could handle or be bothered by anything else.
I have a feeling I will be cancelling the appointment with the audiologist.
LADY HAWKE It looks as though you might have to take up signing if he can’t or won’t use hearing. See how his pride copes with that.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, PB! Are you back in school yet? I seem to remember you started college on your birthday. Enjoy these 20 something years, no more big meaningful birthday for you for years to come.
GRAYMAYNE, even I am quelled by the thought of hearing aids that are a $3000 subscription a year for each ear. At least when you purchased a traditional hearing aid you paid for it once and it was yours until it literally wore out. That was generally years, at least three or four years, and sometimes much longer than that. Medical insurance does not pay for hearing aids and never has. The wax removal and the test yesterday will be paid for by the insurance but no part of the hearing aids will be. It will be all out of pocket, hence the anxiety about purchasing them and not wearing them.
Hearing aids do not return your hearing to normal. Although they do make voices louder they also make extraneous ambient noise louder as well. For decades hearing aid manufacturers have fought against this duality. So, wearing and accepting hearing aids is not as easy as just a decision to wear them. After you start you can find the increase in ambient noise is more worrying than the benefit you receive from the increased loudness of voices.
When they turned the microphone on as loud as possible yesterday and asked my father to repeat a list of words he only got 26% correct in one ear and 36% correct in the other. He has no testable high pitch hearing in one ear and almost no testable high pitch hearing in the other. High pitches are wear consonants are made. The hearing is just gone and no amount of amplification will reach those pitches. He has normal hearing in the low pitches. Therefore, he can hear voices as loudly as he ever did but because those high pitches are missing he can understand words. He just hears a lot of vowels with a consonant hear and there. His middle pitches show a moderate hearing loss so hearing aids would help bring in a limited number of consonants found in those middle pitches. Granted those test words were words in isolation without contextual information but it illustrates his ears don’t hear and understand so well even at extremely loud presentation levels.
He does as well as he does because he uses the context of the conversation and his naturally learned ability to “lip read” to prop himself up. When he is in a noisy place like a restaurant he can’t even hear the voice of the person he is speaking to over the voices of all the other people having other conversations. With hearing aids it is hoped he would gain a little more useful information and be able to enhance his contextual and lip reading skills. Unfortunately, in noisy situations he is still going to have limited success with the hearing aids.
So, there are a lot of “ifs” involved. If he gets useful benefit. If the extraneous noise is tolerable. If the extraneous noise is not so confusing as to negatively overwhelm any potential benefit. If they are comfortable enough to wear. If my parents can manage to pay for them.
I think if it was as simple as putting on a pair of glasses and having them restore his hearing as glasses restore vision I think he would do it. Unfortunately, hearing aids are not so neat and so effective.
We had a lovely but tiring day today. I took my offspring (I love that word, lol!) to meet up with Mum. Her mobility problems are getting worse…….she is seeing a consultant in pain management…..as in, they can’t fix the pain and her problems……so we spent a lot of time sitting down, drinking coffee and eating sugary things.
I did manage to get new uniform for my daughter, and got some new clothes for son. He no longer needs to wear school uniform, but still needs smart casual clothes for school. Thank you, credit card!
Mum pre warned son that he would be getting a big, big hug and a kiss, in public and everything, for his results. Son bore it very well, lol, even bending down so she could kiss him more easily! Mum gave him £50 as a well done gift.
Lady Hawke, both my parents have hearing aids. Dad held off for a long while, he just “borrowed” one of Mums. Yes, seriously. He does have his own now, but uses them only sporadically. As your Father has been so resistant for so long, I think it is unlikely that anything will change his mind, or make it less your fault. I doubt it is worth the expense. But good luck to you all!
Hugs to PB! Happy Birthday you!
Lady Hawke Your father’s problems are familiar to me because my DS damaged his hearing in his mid-twenties when riding a particular motorbike at race meetings. It left him with tinnitus. Age has slowly increased his hearing loss in the upper register, so he can’t hear bird song, certain high notes in classical music and voices on the telephone give him trouble. He finds the female voice more difficult to hear than male ones and conversation in noisy backgrounds like busy pubs is impossible. He can’t cope with sound in the cinema so I watch films alone or go with my neighbour. We always have the subtitles on when we watch films on TV, but that doesn’t help with TV news because the subtitles are always out of sync. He recently had his ears syringed by the nurse at our medical centre and life has become easier, for both of us. I recognise difficulty with hearing consonants, it hadn’t struck me that they fell into the high range. I sometimes have to spell out a word if he still can’t catch it when I e nun ci ate sl ow ly. Our new landline telephone system is a big improvement. he has no difficulty hearing the caller provided they don’t have a strong accent. There is a bonus to the situation, our son has always been made aware of the necessity of protecting his hearing, so he hasn’t damaged his hearing with playing music too loudly on any device. He can no longer hear bats squeaking, as he could as a youngster, but he possibly has better hearing than any of his contemporaries.
Phones are sometimes actually easier for people with hearing losses, not counting the inability to see the speaker and read lips. Everyone has a high frequency hearing loss on a phone. Phones don’t pass frequencies over 4000Hz. So, a lot of the area where my father and probably your DS have the most problem hearing so does everyone else on a phone. Until a person’s hearing is really awful they can usually do okay on a phone. The phone is a piece of audiotory “magic”. That was how it was explained to us in graduate school by a very prominent PhD who is a world renown expert in hearing aid fittings. According to her phones were “magic”, allowing almost everyone to converse successfully while creating a very noticable profound high pitch hearing loss in everyone who uses them. For some reason the human brain fills in the missing bits on the phone.
ASTI, I’m sorry to hear your mother is having so little success in controlling her discomfort. It is good you have the pleasant option of coffee and sugary things. I suppose now you will find out whether it is easier to provide a uniform or street clothes. Will your son still be attending the same school for 6th Form or will he be going elsewhere? If going elsewhere how far away will the new school be?
I have no serious expectation of my father successfully wearing hearing aids. I have had to stop myself from calling and cancelling the appointment. I may well do so yet.
When I was working people would drag very elderly, very resistant parents into my office to be fit with hearing aids. It was my job to sell hearing aids to people. So, I would go through with the process, knowing in my heart it was a fruitless endeavor, that I would end up taking the hearing aids and sending them back to the manufacturer. I would go through the process more to illustate to the children that it wasn’t going to work without their parent’s full participation and determination. I have had to fit people who couldn’t see, who had terrible manual dexterity, who were teetering into senility, who were openly hostile. I was not very successful at selling hearing aids for a living. I simply couldn’t make myself insist people keep those expensive little objects I knew they weren’t using or weren’t capable of using.
To be successful with hearing aids you really need to have your full faculties about you or someone else living with you full time who can take care of them and insert and remove them when you can’t. An ideal hearing aid patient is a young person up to an active fully competent senior, someone who is still active and alert with good dexterity, someone with motivation who is willing to be diligent and responsible. My father could have done it 27 years ago if he had wanted to, now, I’m not so sure, probably not.
Can anyone tell I am angst ridden about this and I’ve been giving it much too much thought?