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A political faerie story, like she once said. Tiny little faeries running for office.
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I'm J.K. Rowling, and I'll tell you in comments.
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My mother called at 2:30 AM. Daddy had been vomiting and she was trying to clean him up. He was not helping her, even seeming to fight her, didn’t seem to know her. She needed help to change the bed.

He is drawn up into the fetal position and isn’t helping us at all. He made no effort to help roll or lift himself. With two of us working it was very difficult, almost impossible, to change him and the bed.

I think I am going to have to start spending the night with them so I can get up, help my mother, and just go back to bed. Even the trip across the street is too much at 2:30 AM. We will probably have to hire someone to come help my mother during the eight hours I may be at work. I will have to stick close to home at all other times. I won’t be going any farther than the grocery.

I know this can’t go on long.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 22, 2014, 09:48 AM report to moderator
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It is almost 4 PM. I have been at my parent’s house since 10 AM. He has deteriorated rapidly since I saw him at 2:30 AM. The nurse came and evaluated him. We are stopping his regular oral medication and starting the end of life medications to control his discomfort which can be administered under the tongue or by suppository.

While it took my mother and I to change the bed at 2:30 AM, it took my mother, my DS, and I to do it at 12 PM. It has been determined my mother can’t do this alone. She can’t even do it with me. We need someone who knows exactly how to do it and who is strong enough to do it. Within an hour or so we will have someone there 24/7 until the end which is expected to be within the week.

The aid who comes to bathe him is going to be coming at night for 12 hour shifts and she is trading off with another aid for the daytime hours. The aid who has been coming to bathe him told me she loves us and wants to take care of them.

I am going out to purchase more sheets. We are going through them very quickly. Also, I need to make the bed the aid will sleep in while she is there at night.

I am going to get sandwich ingredients so there is some food there for people who are coming in to help.

Then, I am coming home to cook fried chicken, my daughter’s request for dinner. I don’t know if she feels like eating it but I am going to go through with the idea, trying to salvage something from the day.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 22, 2014, 04:55 PM report to moderator
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Lady Hawke I am hoping for a swift and peaceful end to a long life and I am relieved that full-time professional care is now in place. The last few months have been a great strain on all concerned.

Posted by Graymayne on March 22, 2014, 07:49 PM report to moderator
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Since we have help I am not spending the night. There is no point. If either of them feel they need me they can call me.

It was a relief to leave my mother and know she has someone there to do the heavy lifting. I know she is okay and they will call me if they need me so I can go to sleep in peace, not expecting a call during this night.

Mother has morphine drops to give my father and he is asking for them constantly. He can have them once an hour. I wish there was something that would hold him longer.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 22, 2014, 09:14 PM report to moderator
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Having an aid overnight was a great improvement. There was only one clean up and my mother didn’t have to do it. My mother had a bit of sleep. The aid said she passed through in the night and they were both sleeping. The aid did administer the morphine to my father several times, relieving my mother of that duty as well.

I am making breakfast and starting laundry but I will go across after I have things underway and check in myself.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 23, 2014, 11:33 AM report to moderator
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Good evening!

I am home, after an exhausting weekend. Man with van was a wonderful help…..we did three tip runs yesterday, one today, and he has taken another van load to get rid of tomorrow. We have done a LOT, and all of us, Dad included, have worked very hard.

Parents still have a lot to do. They have to be out in ten days time. Thay are on their own now. Though I could go back next weekend if they are really struggling. But oh, we got so much done!

I brought back my old record player, on the off chance it works after 25 years in the loft. It’s a bit of living history for my daughter, if nothing else. She’ll be fascinated!

I was delighted to find one of the few pictures of me that I like, taken without my knowledge by a friend when I was just 17. I have put it on fb, (thankyou for the comments and likes!) and will put it on CC too.

Lady Hawke, it was distressing to read your news. I am glad you have help there now to help ease your Father, and to support you all. I hope you are all able to be with your parents without stress, without him being in pain, and for you all to be at peace when the end comes. You know all of us here are thinking of you, and loving you, and wising we could help you. xx

Posted by asti on March 23, 2014, 05:25 PM report to moderator
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Asti: Great picture.

Posted by ironsos on March 23, 2014, 06:41 PM report to moderator
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Thank you, ASTI. I spent a lot of time with my parents today. He had a few sips of cranberry juice but that is all. He tried to attend to the conversation a bit and even made a few comments. One of the milestones passed by a person facing death is a moment of rallying in which they may make an attempt to participate conversation when they have not done so in some time. He was very groggy and slept a lot and suddenly he would say, “I didn’t hear that. So, I would get up and repeat a bit of our conversation and he would make an appropriate comment.” I feel we may have had the last of our conversations.

It sounds as if you made great headway on the house. Getting rid of the extraneous, useless items that have piled up in a house is a great step toward being ready to move.

I thought your photo was wonderful. I do not have any of myself I like half so much as yours. I don’t know if anyone has ever caught me beautifully unaware.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 23, 2014, 09:11 PM report to moderator
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I liked dinner so much my shirt decided to join me. Darn.

Posted by ironsos on March 24, 2014, 07:32 PM report to moderator
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Lady Hawke I am so glad you finally have help for you and your Mother. I am so sorry for your family that the end is near.

Did I tell you that when I got into my truck to go to the family get together Sunday my battery was dead? I did a compostie text to my daughters telling them. I waited and got no reply. I finally checked and the text had failed to be sent. I sent it again and Jennifer anwsered immediately. She came to get me and we were only about 20 minutes late. We had a very good time. It was a dinner for my grandson who is in from Germany. The dinner was at a community building instead of at my son-in-law sister’s house. The only reason for this that I could tell was so it would be at neutral territory. Both sides of my grandson’s family were there. This means his Mother, her husband, his sister, and his grandfather. There were others there but I did not know them. You usually only see this type of family at weddings. Lol Actually everything went very smoothly. I got a lot of hugs from the four grandsons that were there. Their other grandmother only got a hug as each were leaving. I guess she did not make herself available for hugs during the evening.

My youngest daughter Beth and son-in-law came by this evening. They took me to dinner. Afterwards, we picked up a battery for my truck. We found out that the battery was still under warranty for a few more days. They had to put it on a charger and leave it to make sure it was flat. I paid for a new one and we took it home. My son-in-law put it in my truck and it started immediately. Later the store called him and said I would get my money back because the warrenty was good. So he will pick it up tomorrow for me since I had given him the receipts to take care of it for me.

This is the reason I do not ask him to do things that I can do for myself. I wait until I have something I really need his help. This way he is happy to help me without feeling put upon.

Asti I will go to FB and look for your picture. I do have a picture of my newest great granddaughter that I need to post for Graymayne.

Posted by Cool G on March 24, 2014, 10:47 PM report to moderator
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LadyHawke – your situation reminded of the last days with my dad. My Dad left the hospital knowing that he would be going home to live out his last days. None of his eight children lived near him. So we split the weeks among us to make sure he was never alone. When one left the other one would arrive. We all saw him. My picture I sometimes post on. FB is of that week we were with him. No matter how much we planned the day he died not one of us were there. My sister left and my brother did not arrive. He missed his flight and arrived in the afternoon. My father passed away in the morning.

I am sending you my love and hugs. {{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 25, 2014, 12:16 AM report to moderator
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MM There is a school of thought that people on the brink of death tend to hang on if caring relatives are around but are more easily able to slip away when alone. You might care to regard your brother’s missed flight more as a blessing, as your father would have passed away in the expectation of your brother’s arrival because until this point the system had worked perfectly. Life can be very mysterious at times and I feel sure that this event should be accepted with serenity not guilt.

CoolG I am really pleased to hear that the weekend turned out to be such a success and that you felt very appreciated by your grandchildren. It doesn’t really surprise me, we love to have you popping in to chat and really miss you when you don’t appear for a couple of days.

Ironsos Ha, ha! I can relate to that, lol.

Posted by Graymayne on March 25, 2014, 11:12 AM report to moderator
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Was going out to the mailbox and it is snowing. I was checking to see if my debit card had came in the mail. I was getting a little antsy because my present one expires on the first. Luckily it was in the mail. I could just see it getting lost and I would have to bewriting checks and no more online shopping until a new one could be done. You know I do have problems sometimes with this bank over my SS checks. They tend to send them back every once in awhile. The last time was they just discovered my DS had died and this was 2 years later. Now why this had anything to do with my ss deposit since it is now deposited into a new account and had been since the DS died. Sometimes they do it because my daughter’s name is on my account as well as mine. I had her name put on my account in case I died she could get my money out of my account. Also so she could help me if there was a dispute about something. She doesn’t exactly have my power of attorney but I do have her name on just about everything but my truck. Guess I should get a new title and have her name added. I did not do that before because I thought I might buy a new vehicle.

Posted by Cool G on March 25, 2014, 11:17 AM report to moderator
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It has been a very strange day. Daddy had a bad night, very angry about being in the bed, wouldn’t let my mother hold his hand. By morning he was sheepish, seemed to realize he had behaved badly and took my mother’s hand.

This afternoon I went by after I came home from school. He did talk to me in a gentle, sad way about how much had hates being bedridden. He told me about his left hand being useless to him now. He talked about being in the hospital and the rehab and how he could walk and then he was in the wheelchair and that now he can’t doing anything except lie in bed.

One of the aids came in to relieve the other but the first wasn’t in a hurry to leave so they both sat talking. When daddy realized there were two aids there as well as me and my mother he announced, “If we have guests I need to sit up.” So, we cranked the head of the bed up.

We were telling the aids about his bird dog and his one experience hunting. We related that he had a bird dog and a double barreled shotgun that had belonged to his great grandfather. He had a friend with a bird dog and a gun who did like to hunt and the friend talked him into taking his dog and go hunting. He informed me, “I never did like to hunt.” He didn’t like to kill things. He loved animals alive.

I went on to explain the trip did not go well. He fired the gun while standing in a lake in waders. The gun was so large and ungainly it drove him down into the muck when he fired it. At that point he informed me, “It was Reelfoot Lake.” (I never knew at what lake he had been when he was driven into the mud.) On the way home his bird dog became car sick and vomited all over everything. He never tried to go hunting again.

Later he held out his hand to someone and announced his name. Then, he asked what the gentleman’s name was. Then, he said, “Oh, no, it’s not a gentleman. It’s a picture on the wall.” We haven’t hung any pictures yet.

I noticed a cat calico crossing the backyard. My father pointed down on the floor and said, “Oh, yes, there is a black mama cat and her kitten.”

My father looked at me and said, “I’m sure there are things you need to be doing.” I told him there were but my DS had said he was going to come by and visit so what I had to do could wait a little while.

My husband came in after work and my father reached out and shook his hand.

After a few minutes my father looked at me and said, “Don’t you need to be going home?” So, we went.

He has had nothing to eat in days, although he has had a bit to drink. He took probably 4 oz of lemonade for me and about the same amount of water.

He asked to brush his teeth and insisted on doing it himself. His legs have relaxed and are no longer locked tightly together in a fetal position. They aren’t straight but they are comparatively relaxed.

I could almost be encouraged to think he is getting better, except that he has not eaten anything at all in days or had a bowel movement since Saturday at midday. He has had no more than 16 oz of fluid since Saturday.

My DS agrees he looks much worse even though he was quite communicative, even though it didn’t all make sense. His eyes are filled with puss and must be washed frequently. His skin is papery with purple splotches on his skin, especially his hands.

This was a very strange mixture of confusion and lucidity today.

The information I have read about the dying is they frequently rally and show more interest before the final crash. At least we talked and I learned something I didn’t know.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 25, 2014, 08:58 PM report to moderator
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Oh, yes, and the subject of catfish came up. We had some particularly good fried catfish a couple of weeks ago and I was telling my mother that I had been craving it and that if I could have what I wanted to eat tonight I would go get that catfish. My father said, “Well, get the manager and tell him to get it for you.”

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 25, 2014, 09:33 PM report to moderator
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LadyHawke – I hope he gets to eat and drink more. {{{{{hugs}}}}}#

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 25, 2014, 10:35 PM report to moderator
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Graymayne – I agree. I sometimes think he died and knew how much it would hurt us so he died while no one was there. :(

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 25, 2014, 10:38 PM report to moderator
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Good evening.

I firmly believe that death can be very private. I am certainly not saying a person chooses to die alone, but often, that is what seems to happen. Without in any way wanting to compare people with pets, we have had several, very loved, very cared for cats take an opportunity to vanish to die alone and in private.

Lady Hawke, as difficult and painful as this is for all of you, isn’t this the way we would all go if we could choose? At home, surrounded by our loved ones and their conversations, in our own bed, and well cared for. I so wish we could all be there for you.

Posted by asti on March 26, 2014, 05:16 PM report to moderator
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Very different today, my father is in a constant state of twitch, restless, not sleeping. Today we can’t understand him. His voice seems to be gone; his lips move but we can’t hear or understand him. I caught a few words but they make no sense. I know he wanted a flashlight so he could find something.

Just after I left last night hight he became angry, wanted his car, wanted to go home, tried to get out of bed, started throwing things.He tried to escape the bed all night. Maybe he wanted me out of the way before he pitched a fit. The nurse had to come and start a medication for agitation and anxiety and increase the morphine.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 26, 2014, 06:42 PM report to moderator
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Lady Hawke Quite apart from the morphine, I would imagine that absence of normal nutrition would cause imbalances in brain function. I feel that you might have had your last meaningful communication. {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

Posted by Graymayne on March 27, 2014, 07:17 AM report to moderator
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My Schwann man came today. I knew I wanted some fried rice and asked what her recommended for me to get. He had a new shrimp spring rolls which are like …………. Oh the Chinese things that have pork, cabbage, and other things in it. Anyway I cooked some for dinner and they were delicious especially with the fried rice.

I will go to town tomorrow. I meant to go today but it was raining. It will be dry and warmer tomorrow.

Lady Hawke has not been on today. I am worried.

Posted by Cool G on March 27, 2014, 04:34 PM report to moderator
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First rumble of thunder of the spring. Lots of needed snow in the mountains.

Posted by ironsos on March 27, 2014, 04:42 PM report to moderator
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More overtime for me tomorrow yay! This is four weeks in a row, so adds up to a substantial amount.

My sister is heading back to the parents this weekend. I am not. It is Mothering Sunday, my presence is required at home, and it is impractical, given the locality, to just go for the Saturday. Sister is grumpy!!

I have had to adjust my catering plans. There are a lot of good special offers, and I have fully stocked the freezer. I was going to make a big batch of bolognaise sauce to freeze down, but there is no room.

Daughter has been studying Indian culture. This culminated in a dress up day today. Fortunately, our piano teacher is very involved in amdram, and has recently done a production involving Indian dress. She saved me a fortune on ebay, and daughter went to school in a beautiful midnight blue tunic and scarf with lots and lots of gold beading. I made a curry tonight, not realising part of the school day involved cooking……..daughter has eaten THREE curries today!!

Lady Hawke, always thinking of you. xx

WHERE IS DEANIE?

Posted by asti on March 27, 2014, 06:13 PM report to moderator
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Daddy has been mostly sleeping since last night. They have adjusted his medication to try and keep him from getting so angry and agitated. Unfortunately, it is also keeping him from having many lucid moments in addition to keeping him from having angry, confused ones.

When I arrived and bent over to kiss him he tried to say something. He has no voice, just moves his lips, with very little sound production, not even a whisper really. I thought he might have said cantaloupe. The aid came over and thought she heard the same thing. We didn’t have cantaloupe but we did have some frozen strawberries. I asked if I could give him strawberries and he nodded. So, I put some strawberries and apple juice in the blender. He took four spoonfuls before he started choking. He did agree it tasted good after the first spoonful.

Once he stopped coughing he went to sleep and slept until I was about to prepare to leave. He started getting restless and reaching for things. The aid went to get more medication for the agitation and pain. They say he will probably stay in this state of almost constant sleep until the end. This morning he did not recognize my mother until she told him who she was. Once he understood who she was he seemed embarrassed. She was very depressed. We told her he is so confused he might have been remembering her as she was when they first met.

ASTI, although I understand your sister’s disappointment in your absence I am actually quite pleased for you that you get to stay home for your day. I’m afraid I have not had time off for good behavior on my days of recent years.

Did you take photos of Princess Pink? I wish someone would cook a curry for me.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 27, 2014, 08:38 PM report to moderator
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That is right. DEANIE has not been here in some time. I have been so obsessed with what is going on here I have not paid proper attention.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 27, 2014, 08:39 PM report to moderator
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I feel very bad. It has been over a month, since February 24 since I saw a post from DEANIE. I have been so self centered as not to notice she hasn’t been posting.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 27, 2014, 08:43 PM report to moderator
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I just emailed DEANIE. I am sure she has to be very discouraged with us that we have taken so long to note her absence. ASTI, thank you for bringing it to our attention.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 27, 2014, 08:48 PM report to moderator
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*Hello *

My mother in law fell down the front steps and broke her arm. I feel horrible since I was the one holding her hand when she fell. She missed a step and started to fall. I couldn’t hold on to her. She fell two steps landed on her and broke it. We took her yo the ER last night. We were there till 2:00am. I feel horrible. Now she is bed ridden.

I didn’t go to work because I was exhausted. My pacemaker doesn’t allow me to recoup as easily as before. I get tired and stay tired until I sleep my full 8 hours.

My mother in law is resting. A little drugged up with pain killers but resting. :(

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 27, 2014, 10:07 PM report to moderator
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DEANIE has been missing since February. :(

Mr. Deanie too. I went back to see if they mentioned a trip or something but …. no. :(

I will text Deanie tomorrow at a more decent hour. :(

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 27, 2014, 10:22 PM report to moderator
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MM Speaking from personal experience it is surprising how much you can do with one arm once you are over the shock and the pain has subsided. Muscle tone is lost quite quickly so it is better to keep as active as possible. Personal care is tricky:(

I am glad to hear that you are taking care of your own health.

Posted by Graymayne on March 28, 2014, 08:44 AM report to moderator
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