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A political faerie story, like she once said. Tiny little faeries running for office.
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The Scottish Book. All about Scotland.
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I'm J.K. Rowling, and I'll tell you in comments.
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My heartfelt condolences, LadyHawke. Thoughts and prayers for love and comfort are being sent for your mom, and you and your family. Prayers also for the eternal rest and peace for your father.

Hugs.

Posted by Josephine on March 30, 2014, 08:13 PM report to moderator
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I just texted with Won. He was in the hospital for a tear in a muscle in his abdomen. He is out but needs a lot of pain killers. He sends his hellos.

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 30, 2014, 10:10 PM report to moderator
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MM Thanks for the news:)

Won_Two Keep smiling, warmer days are ahead.

Posted by Graymayne on March 31, 2014, 03:39 AM report to moderator
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Hi Guys

Just had a note from Lemon and wanted to offer my condolences to LadyHawke. I’ve been a bit MIA with work and book stuff so didn’t realise your dad was so ill. I am dreadfully sorry for your loss. From personal experience I know how difficult it is to lose a parent. Take care of yourself and I’m sending lots of hugs from this side of the pond xxxxxx

BTW everyone! I think you may have moved castles and I’m not on the new list. Can you send me a link? I really would love to catch up, when time allows.

Posted by Wolfie on March 31, 2014, 04:34 AM report to moderator
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Thank you everyone, we are going this morning to make arrangements.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 31, 2014, 09:43 AM report to moderator
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Lady Hawke sending warm hugs, strength and peace to you, your mom, Little Hawke and your entire family. My heartfelt condolences on the passing of your father.

Dr. LEW also very sad to hear of your grandfather passing. Sending many hugs to you and your family, as well. I hope everything else is going well!

Sending my best to Deanie and hope Won gets well soon, too!

Cool G congrats on your new great-grandbaby!

I did a very quick catch-up of the last few pages, so I hope I haven’t missed any other major news. I hope you are all doing well and I’m sending everyone positive vibes and hugs, hugs, hugs! Sorry I’ve been so out of the loop, but know y’all are always on my mind!

Posted by Felipe on March 31, 2014, 11:32 AM report to moderator
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LH my sincerest condolence on the passing your father. I am sorry for not keeping in touch with you all but I have been tossed by the 4 winds & the 7 seas of late. I just lost a cousin. He was only 26 years old and there was no warning or even a diagnosed reason for his passing. The family is pretty much in a state of total shock. He was an exceptional person. He touched many, many people in his short life, and we had to hold 2 funeral services for him at separate locations in the state to accommodate all the mourners. Here is a brief video that will give a small glimpse into this extraordinary human being…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOJtYSPSkSM

Posted by Won_Two on March 31, 2014, 01:22 PM report to moderator
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http://www.grimmy.com/comics.php

Had me rolling on the floor for some reason.

Posted by ironsos on March 31, 2014, 03:18 PM report to moderator
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Good evening.

We had a lovely warm day yesterday, and we went for a long relaxed amble down by the river. It was very lovely to feel the sunshine.
In the evening we watched Catching Fire which impressed me. She is SO good as Katniss. Perfect casting. I may also be a bit in love with Cinna. He is such a sweetie.

My sister survived the weekend with the parents………and found one of the few things I had hoped to rediscover. When I was 15ish, a friend committed suicide. His parents gave me his trilby, which he lived in, as a keepsake. I knew it was somewhere at my parents, as I deliberately didn’t take it with me when I left home, wanting to keep it safe. I am so glad.
She also found the bridesmaids dress I wore at my aunt’s wedding, aged 14. I am very curious to see if I can still get into it, lol!

What a lot of unhappy news. Won, your young cousin’s death must have been such a shock, I am sorry. I’m sorry too that you’ve been unwell again. Please try and pop in more often. xx

Lady Hawke, I do hope all went smoothly today. I was relieved to see that your DS is able to take bereavement leave to support you all. How are you all?

Josephine and Felipe, it’s SO good to see you. xx

Posted by asti on March 31, 2014, 04:08 PM report to moderator
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WON, good to see you back again. I hope you recover quickly. I’m sorry to hear of your loss. The death of someone young is the hardest to understand. I was ready for my father to quit suffering. My grief is what I feel for my mother, my daughter and me having to learn to do without him.

We went to the funeral home to make arrangements, choose the casket, etc. We went to the cemetery to make further arrangements to have the grave opened and closed. I had to walk out and show them which plot. They would not just let me show them on the map. I guess they want no mistakes. We went to the monument place and arranged to have the stone cutters add my father’s name and dates to the back of his parent’s stone. Then, we went to the florist we have used for over 20 years to order a pall of flowers. I’ve spoken to the priests several times. We ate during the process only to have the phone ring while we were at the table to have it be my mother’s family from Nashville wanting to make arrangements to go to dinner tonight.

ASTI, you might tell your mother our female priest is officiating. She will be using the Episcopal/Anglican funeral service.

We are now counting men who be attending. We need six to eight to lift the casket to carry to the grave. Generally those men are made up of the nearest and dearest. If we can recruit them from those in attendance it may be a motley crew of family, friends, long lost friends, and distant relatives. We have found one of my mother’s niece’s sons may be coming. My best friend from high school who married the girl who disappointed me six years ago appears to be coming. His mother is as well and possibly his father. One of my cousins who is coming from Nashville might not be too infirm to help. My DS is available. We may still be short. I suppose I could impress the male priest who is attending but not officiating into service. Most of my friends who are coming are female. I have some female friends coming I would never have expected. I am very grateful. I would have described them as aquaintances but now I can probably count them as friends. It will be a motley assortment of middle aged females.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 31, 2014, 04:42 PM report to moderator
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This is where we head tomorrow morning.

http://www.elmwoodcemetery.org/funeral-services/

Some of the family arrived from Nashville tonight early enough to go to dinner. Mother is grateful they came but she finds socializing stressful. She finds it difficult to make light conversation and was glad to head back to the car after dinner was over. She will be glad to get through tomorrow but I fear she will find the “new normal” more stressful than this strange surreal world we are living in right now.

Posted by Lady Hawke on March 31, 2014, 10:32 PM report to moderator
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LadyHawke – in our most recent funerals we have needed to use two sets of Pall bearers so as not to hurt anyone’s feelings. For my oldest sister. She had 5 sons so they carried along with one of the nephews into the church and to the gravesite. Then it was her (my) brothers and brother in law/ loving nephews. As it was we had some asking us why not them. :(
When my brother in law passed away… It was very hard. He had 11 brothers, his son and his only grandson. They finally had to say his son and grandson would do all the carrying and everyone else took turns in the four spots left.

So for you it’s not enough and for my family it’s way too many. :(

Posted by Madame Minerva on March 31, 2014, 10:43 PM report to moderator
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Lady Hawke Thinking of you and yours. xxxxx

Posted by Graymayne on April 01, 2014, 09:14 AM report to moderator
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Won So sorry for your unexpected loss. Your link was a nice tribute to him. Hope you get to feeling better yourself.

Lady Hawke Glad you have making the arrangements over with. I never thought to look at a cementary online.

I have been thinking about making my own arrangements. My mother did this so I had very little to do. This was good because I was worn out at the time of her death. I need to take out a new policy too. The biggest one I have will no longer be in effect in 3 years. I think it expires when I turn 70. Why would we have taken out a policy that has an expiration date? We probably did not pay any attention to an expiration date. I know a lot of policies drop in coverage when you reach a certain age. At my age you now have to have a new policy for 2 years for it to pay off at face value.

Jennifer came by for lunch today. She had just came from a funeral and someone hit her car while she was there. Someone saw the accident and called the police. Whoever hit it left the scene. He hit two cars and a momument. At least her car was driveable but now she has to get it fixed.

Posted by Cool G on April 01, 2014, 03:57 PM report to moderator
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We are home from the funeral and lunch afterward. We left mother at her house and I came home for a few minutes to freshen up and make contact with some people on the internet who I know wanted to know how things were going.

When we headed over to pick my mother up this morning the aid who was with us when daddy passed was already there waiting. She had come to go to the funeral with us. So we loaded mother and the aid into the car and went by the hotel to hook up with the two car loads from Nashville who arrived last night so they could follow us to the cemetery.

We arrived at the cemetery about a half hour early but soon were joined by the hearse, also very early, and then several other cars. The daughter of my father’s 100 year old best friend came. My best male friend from high school who married my best girl friend who was a disappointment to me six years ago came, as did his mother. The mother of my daughter’s “difficult” friend from school came. She is such a dear person I hate it her daughter is such a trial to mine. My friend I met when she managed our local Blockbuster Video before we moved to MS came. I was a bit surprised those last two showed up. They proved to be better friends than I suspected. Of course, my friend who went to Chicago LeakyCon came with her husband. That was the group that went on with us to lunch with the exception of the mother of my best male friend from high school.

A representative of the family who were our next door neighbors when I was born came. Of course, the officiating priest came and our rector came with her. Then, we had the three family couples from Nashville. My father’s best man’s widow arrived as well. None of them went to lunch with us afterward.

We made up pall bearers from the group: my DS, my best friend from high school, my 76 year old cousin, my cousin’s daughter’s husband, my friend’s DS who went to LeakyCon with me, and our male rector. So, we were able to cobble together just enough from those on hand. Some of them would not have been an obvious first choice but it did the job.

When we reached the restaurant I had my best male friend from high school sit with my mother. He made her day. She loved him so much and has missed him so much. Our dear aid sat across from her and took care of her throughout the day. My daughter sat next to my best male friend from high school and he went right back to tormenting her as he used to do when she was small. My father’s best friend’s daughter (who my mother used to babysit before I was born) sat next to the aid across the table from my mother. The rest of us ranged down the table. My mother sat with the people dearest to her at the table besides me and my daughter. My uncle who passed away November of 2012 was also a great fan of my male best friend from high school. They were cut out of the same cloth and both had a fine time tormenting my mother, daughter and me together. This boy, now a middle aged man, played a huge part in the life of my family and has been greatly missed.

I had my friends down at the end of the table with my DS. It did my heart good to see my best male friend from high school again, stepping in, and going right back to normal with my mother and daughter. We have missed him so much. Even my DS has said time and again he wished we could have Chris back. I came home and Friended him on Facebook with my DS’s blessings. I may never see him again socially but I won’t be totally cut off from him again and I can share news of him with my mother, daughter and DS. It also made my heart lurch to see him carrying my father to the grave. My father would have liked to have had him back long before now.

Later this afternoon my friend who went to LeakyCon is going to come over to my mother’s house for a little while and then she and I are going off for a private visit at a restaurant close by. We may go to Starbucks and have coffee.

Tomorrow my daughter must go back to school but this afternoon my DS is going to take her to see a movie she has waited weeks to see because of my father’s deterioration.

Tomorrow I must speak to the attorney’s office in the afternoon. I have a number of questions I must ask them about how to proceed in the next few weeks or months while the will goes through probate, how to start the will through probate, how to deal with the taxes for my parents that have not been done or signed. I need to know how to make sure I have access to some of my mother’s money in the unlikely but possible circumstance of her passing soon before my father’s probate is finished. I found out yesterday how much it costs to bury someone. It may sound harsh but I need to find out how to access some money to pay for her burial if she goes before the probate is settled. She has money she or I can access now but if she was gone my powers of attorney would do me no good in getting at any of it.

I am tired. I hope I am finally tired enough to sleep without waking up and stressing myself out at 2 AM.

I worry for my mother, having to learn to live alone, without my father to take care of. I hope she can figure out a way to want to live and to enjoy life a little without him. At 88 years old without the ability to drive and with her friends already gone, it will be hard for her to figure out a new life for herself.

Posted by Lady Hawke on April 01, 2014, 04:30 PM report to moderator
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My father’s cousin’s daughter who could not make it from NW Arkansas to the funeral this morning called just after we arrived to tell me since she had not been able to make the trip she had called the cemetery office and had arranged to have a dogwood tree planted in memory of my father on cemetery grounds. The cemetery if full of old growth trees but as they age and severe storms come through they fall so the cemetery makes a constant effort to replace the trees that are lost.

Posted by Lady Hawke on April 01, 2014, 04:40 PM report to moderator
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Asti Did you spot Wolfie’s post of March 31st?

Lady Hawke I am happy to hear that yesterday all went to plan and that you were surrounded by good friends and family. Good luck with the legal stuff today.

Posted by Graymayne on April 02, 2014, 02:48 AM report to moderator
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Lady Hawke Get your name on any money accounts that she has. It will save both you and her time with dealing with money matters. That is the first thing I did when my DS passed. I put my daughter’s name on checking, savings, life insurance, and any other thing I could think of including my property deed. No matter if you have power of attorney, getting your name on the money accounts will keep them from getting froze if anything happens to your mother. I am surprised you have not done this already. It will also help with inheritance tax if your name is already on paperwork as co owner.

My cousin has been online with me from FB trying to get the names of my DS’s brother’s family. They are trying to make a family tree. We do have a FB page for the family but still do not have everyone on there. I thought I did good by remembering the kids names but could not remember my niece’s kids. Heck I do good to remember my grandkids names at times.

Posted by Cool G on April 02, 2014, 01:19 PM report to moderator
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Good evening.

Today was supposed to be Moving Day for my parents. Due to a misunderstanding with the removal company, today was Packing Day…….tomorrow will be Moving Day. They are now without a computer, (it came with the job,) and the ’phone will be disconnected tomorrow. Unless they find, charge, and remember how to use the ancient mobile my Father has somewhere, I will have to write a letter to be in touch with them for the next ten days or so. I am quite looking forward to doing that!

Since they now have to buy a new computer, I am really trying to encourage them towards a tablet. I don’t think they are quite ready, though they are seduced by the possiblities of apps and newspapers online. But certainly a laptop, rather than the huge, ancient desktop that came with the job.

Lady Hawke, your post was very moving. I don’t know how your Mother begins again, but being just over the road from you will help her. Being in regular contact with your daughter will be a huge help. I hope the financial stuff isn’t going to cause too many headaches, and I hope you have some time to yourself at some point soon in order to have a private time to grieve.
Is there any chance of you and your DS getting a few days away, just to have a break, and have some time together, a time out?

Graymayne, yes I did. Have you sent her the link? If not, I will.

Posted by asti on April 02, 2014, 05:18 PM report to moderator
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Had my annual eye exam yesterday. Results were excellent. 20/20 and no problems. Just
wish my brain had the same vision.

Posted by ironsos on April 02, 2014, 05:29 PM report to moderator
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LadhHawke – {{{{{hugs}}}}}. I can see you running yoursel ragged. Please rest. Let all the life chores go for awhile.

I worry about your Mom. Please keep her company so that she can acclimate to this new life slowly. When she is ready… There are senior centers and park activities aimed at the elderly. Help her find friends.

Ironsos – I wish my vision was just as good. :/

Posted by Madame Minerva on April 02, 2014, 07:32 PM report to moderator
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I have never wanted to have my name on my parent’s property. What if my DS lost his job and we got into trouble? What if one of us had wreck and we were sued? If my name was on their property it could be attached to pay our debts. It also can’t look as if my mother now is trying to transfer property to me if she ever ended up in a nursing home.

Originally I didn’t need to have my name on the annuities they held. I was the beneficiary. All I would have had to do was wait for the death certificate and it would have come to me immediately.

Since we ended up in fear of my father or my mother ending up in a nursing facility which very nearly happened to my father we were advised to liquidate the annuities and turn them into a house which could be partially protected outside a trust or completely protected inside a trust.

If both my parents dropped dead without going to a nursing home first we would have been better off to leave the money in the annuities but you can’t guarantee there is no nursing home in her future. She is 88. Some of her siblings have lived well into their 90s in nursing facilities.

We did transfer a significant sum into a new checking account with her as the primary and me as the secondary. I could bury her, start the probate process and pay for the utilities on the house while her will goes through probate.

We also opened a new checking account for my father’s estate with me as the executrix. I will be able to use that money for expenses incurred for the house. A good size check will be deposited into once a month.

Posted by Lady Hawke on April 02, 2014, 09:11 PM report to moderator
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Part of this legal maneuvering was to put most of the house and bond in just my father’s name so it could be put into trust for my mother with me as the eventual beneficiary. We did make me the beneficiary of her IRA today, instead of daddy.

No, there will be no getting away for a few days for me and the DS. Money is too tight. I would rather not go back to work tomorrow but the truth is we cannot afford for me not to go back to work tomorrow. I have to work as many days as possible between now and when school ends in late May. I will not be able to find work as frequently, if at all, once school is out.

ASTI, I don’t know how you will manage during this move only being in contact with your parents by letter. Do you have prepaid cell phones you can purchase? You can load more minutes on them as needed. I think here they are called Trak Phones or Trac Phones. They don’t cost very much and you can dispose of them if you don’t want to keep feeding them. They are very basic but would keep you in contact. My mother needed to talk to me several times at day during both their moves.

My mother went to the grocery for the first time in many months. Her shopping list was very small in comparison to the lists she had when shopping to feed my father. She would easily spend $100 a week when shopping with him in mind. Today she spent just over $25 for herself. She purchased a few frozen dinners and some canned food items, some soups, etc. Of course, if she needs anything more she won’t have to wait a week. She can let me know what she needs and I can pick it up for her and drop it off on my way home.

My daughter and I went for coffee with my friend who went to LeakyCon with us after she got out of school today.

Posted by Lady Hawke on April 02, 2014, 10:15 PM report to moderator
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Asti No I didn’t. I wasn’t sure of the protocol.

Posted by Graymayne on April 03, 2014, 01:39 AM report to moderator
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I was up early today. I have already let the dogs out 3 or 4 times. Since it rained all night everytime it is not thundering they want out. Gee they have just finished eating breakfast and want out again. I think I will leave them downstairs when they come back in.

Lady Hawke Since no one knows your exact circumstances except you, it is only suggestions from me. It will be nice for your Mother to live across the street. My Mother moved next door to me after my brother moved out. She was able to eat supper with us every night. It made it a lot easier to keep an eye on her. I would prefer to live across the street from my daughters but that is not going to happen.

Gee it is past snow but now we are having the spring storms. Some of our worst tornado’s have come in the early spring. We have tornado watches out for today. Gee the national news are prdicting flooding too. I wonder how near the mud slides were to Lemon or Rhianon(sp).

Posted by Cool G on April 03, 2014, 08:38 AM report to moderator
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I have called my father’s life insurance policies today and they are all sending us papers to fill out and return.
I also called about his pension. A check hit the bank on Tuesday. They are going to retrieve it from the bank and start the process of starting my mother’s share of his pension. The horrible part is we won’t get the paperwork for six to eight weeks. What would my mother have done if they had been dependent on that pension from month to month? How would she have lived. Fortunately, she has money to hold her over.

His pension also has a life insurance associated with it but she was not allowed to tell me how much. It will also take weeks to process. It appears my father had life insurance tcked here and there, much as he had investments tucked here and there.

Posted by Lady Hawke on April 03, 2014, 04:12 PM report to moderator
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The guys are back.

http://io9.com/monty-python-is-back-with-a-new-music-video-1557752681

Posted by ironsos on April 03, 2014, 04:45 PM report to moderator
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Cool G – I was thinking the same thing. How lovely it would be for LadyHawke’s mom to be close enough to join the family for supper and yet go back home to watch her TV programs. That would be my dream home. :)
Alone time when you need it but family for dinner. :)

Posted by Madame Minerva on April 03, 2014, 05:56 PM report to moderator
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Oh my goodness! BigG gets to write his own blog, but some of it is Geek-speak so it’s not straight forward. However, this is the gadget I mentioned a few days ago and we managed to install it without too much bother, and it means that our non-smart TV can now show BBCiPlayer material and also Netflix and a few other things. See http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/internet
Sorry, proud Mummy moment:-)

Posted by Graymayne on April 04, 2014, 05:51 AM report to moderator
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Today the dogs are going out even though it is raining. Yesterday they went out in between rain drops. Probably because it was thundering yesterday. I was going to mop the floors after I finished sweeping when I remembered I needed to wait until the rain stops. I usually make the dogs wait downstairs until their feet are dry but sometimes I still have to go behind them to mop of wet footprints. Mopping is too hard for me to do it today then have to do it again later.

Graymayne How exciting for Big G. No wonder you are a proud mom. I understand your meaning of Greek-speak now after reading his blog. I could follow along somewhat but at other times I was lost. Lol

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